Chick flicks.
The wikipedia definition–Chick flick is a slang term for a film mainly dealing with love and romance designed to appeal to a female target audience. Although many types of films may be directed toward the female gender, “chick flick” is typically used only in reference to films that are heavy with emotion or contain themes that are relationship-based.
Yes, it’s true. I can almost always go for a good chick flick. I saw one recently and it got me thinking. What is it about these movies that draw us to them? “Us,” being girls, typically, as the definition says. Love, romance, relationship. Words that either make you sigh and bat your eyelashes, or sigh and make you crinkle up your nose.
This particular film that I saw stuck with me for a couple of days, so I couldn’t help but ask why. And I couldn’t help but write about it.
To me, this is one way a good chick flick can go: Boy likes girl. But girl initially rejects boy. Their paths continue to cross and eventually the girl decides to be friends with the boy. Despite her rejections and hardness of heart, the boy accepts the girl as she is, and he enjoys her company. He decides she is worth pursuing even if she does put up a fight. He believes in her, values her, adores her. All the while she is blind to this, because it is too hard for her to accept him for who he is, and also too hard for her to accept that she is who he sees her to be. She fights against his love for her. She fights against the love she feels for him. But the boy is patient, kind, forgiving. He is up for the challenge and continues to give her grace that she doesn’t deserve, because he can’t deny his heart. She is worth fighting for. But he endures another rejection and has to let her go. He knows she has to decide on her own that she is who he saw her to be all along. He knows that she has to believe on her own that he is the one she loves and the one that she is meant to love forever. When the veil is finally lifted from her heart then she goes to him and makes herself vulnerable like he had been with her all along. He could say many things in response to her, but he says the truth he can’t deny… “I love you. I never stopped loving you.”
Roll the credits. I take a great sigh, bat my eyelashes and imagine how they live happily ever after.
Then it’s back to reality, right? Well, I woke up the next morning after watching that movie and read my devotional thought for the day. From Sarah Young’s, Jesus Calling:
Come to Me. Come to Me. Come to Me. This is My continual invitation to you, proclaimed in holy whispers. When your heart and mind are quiet, you can hear Me inviting you to draw near. Coming close to Me requires no great effort on your part; it is more like ceasing to resist the magnetic pull of My Love. Open yourself to My loving Presence, so that I may fill you with My fullness. I want you to experience how wide and long and high and deep is My Love for you, so that you can know My Love that surpasses knowledge. This vast ocean of Love cannot be measured or explained, but it can be experienced. Rev. 22:17, John 6:37, Eph. 3:16-19.
Wow. So this is why I love chick-flicks so much! It’s true! It is the reality of how God pursues a love relationship with mankind! Girls, next time your man rolls his eyes at the mention of you wanting to go see another chick-flick, just reassure him that it’s the Godly thing to do!
Just kidding. Sort of.
No, really, though. The other reason why this particular chick-flick stuck with me is because it was all too familiar. You can substitute “boy” in that description above with “Wes,” and “girl” with “Stacy.”
Wes and I are celebrating 9 years of marriage! On August 24, 2002 I married the most amazing man. I married my best friend. I married the one I was waiting for–someone who would love God more than he would ever love me. I married Wes, took a great sigh, batted my eyelashes, and dreamed of how we would live happily ever after.
The Lord knows the kinds of trials we have been through over these last 9 years. And the kinds of trials that we went through before we even got married! Who ever said being in a committed relationship was easy? If you have been told that, then you have been straight up lied to. Happily ever after doesn’t mean perfectly easy. It means that even when times are tough you hold on tight to the promise that God will see you through that fire. And then you rejoice together, because you endured the flames and came out stronger, together. Closer, with a greater dependence on your Lord.
It was about 10 years ago when that veil was lifted from my eyes and I could finally see what was before me clearly. I began to realize that Wes has taught me more about God’s grace and unconditional love than anyone I’ve ever known. And since that day I am constantly given a picture, in the flesh, of what my relationship with God is like. What it was like. What it is supposed to be like. What it can be like. What it will be like with time. Who ever said being in a committed relationship with God was easy? If you have been told that, then you have been straight up lied to.
But maybe there is something you haven’t been told. Here it is again. What God says to you,
Coming close to Me requires no great effort on your part; it is more like ceasing to resist the magnetic pull of My Love. Open yourself to My loving Presence, so that I may fill you with My fullness. I want you to experience how wide and long and high and deep is My Love for you, so that you can know My Love that surpasses knowledge. This vast ocean of Love cannot be measured or explained, but it can be experienced.
It’s true. It can be experienced. God desires intimacy with us. A kind of intimacy that is even greater and stronger than the kind of intimacy between husband and wife. It can’t be explained. But it can be experienced.
Thank you, my Lord, and my God for pursing me even when I fight against the magnetic pull of Your love. Thank you for not giving up on me. And thank you, sweet Lord, for giving me Wes. I don’t deserve him, as I don’t deserve You. But I will praise You and thank You all the more!
Happy Anniversary, Wesley. I love you more and more each day. It is such a privilege to live this adventure with you. Thank you for loving our God even more than you’ll ever love me.

3 Comments
i sit and smile….i love that each of the kids have different DNA…they are all so fearfully and wonderfully made!! thanks for sharing!!
This post came at a great time becuase I was studying DNA right before and after I read this. I could totally see this whole conversation happening and I was laughing at the typical Jake-ness of it. Your story telling is perfect and brought me back to a seat at your table for a few minutes. Love yall!
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